A recent conversation in my home went like this:
Me to my wife: Hey, so you know how Lucky (our 10 year old) always says that she perceives the passage of time differently? That is totally a thing!
Yesterday in my ADHD training we talked about time blindness. Many with ADHD perceive time differently than neurotypicals – they may just experience the passage of time differently and oftentimes they don’t have a good estimator of how long things take, which can cause a lot of stress due to over- or underestimating in their time planning.
I talked with a client later that day, where this actually came up, and she wants my help with time management and I am so glad I learned more strategies to help clients get more realistic at estimating time.”
And then my wife gives me that look, a look that is empathatic, yet questioning me: ”Well... do you really want us all to be more realistic? Or can we keep magic in life, acknowledge quantum physics, that time is not linear and you can help your clients to manifest more time?”
Oh, I had to sit with this question for a while!
Do I want to acknowledge the real challenges of time management and time perception and focus on being “realistic”? Do I want to focus on creating our own reality and letting time be a very relative concept?
The answer to this is of course rooted in the principle of my coaching practice: Support clients in a way that serves them best in the moment.
...and also, can’t it be both?
When I was a first time mom, exploring entrepreneurship with a Baby in my lap, I walked out of a session, where I received a law of attraction coaching with the mantra: Time manifests as I create it.
This served me very well at the time. And fast forward 12 years, I am a traveling, homeschooling mom and life coach and seem to continuously be able to make time for the things that I care about.
I am also the one in my family who needs a plan, who sets intentions for timeframes, who creates calendars, timetables and reminds everyone about appointments.
So if you want to talk to me about time management systems, block schedules, concrete or flexible routines – this stuff gets me excited. I am happy to explore with you what works best for you.
So, if you have a unique time perception and are wondering whether it is better to get more realistic about time or more deliberate about creating your reality, I think it is all about learning what focus would be most helpful in the moment.
Firstly, it’s essential to acknowledge that your unique perception of time is part of who you are, and it’s entirely okay. However, if you find that it’s causing you stress or hindering you to get the things done that you want to get done, it’s time to shift the focus.
In the realm of quantum physics and the Law of Attraction, time isn’t the rigid force we often perceive it to be. It’s flexible, influenced by our thoughts and intentions. This means you have the power to reshape your relationship with time.
Start by setting goals and expectations for yourself. Understand your limitations and strengths when it comes to time management. This is where the Law of Attraction can play a magical role. By setting clear intentions and visualizing yourself achieving your tasks efficiently, you’re already shifting the energetic currents in your favor.
Consider implementing practical strategies as well, and use what works for you. Maybe you want to break tasks into smaller, manageable chunks, and allocate specific time slots for each. Maybe tools like timers or alarms to help you stay on track.
By doing this, you’re not only creating a structured approach to time but also honoring your intention and have a way to track success.
Additionally, remember to practice self-compassion. When you embrace a positive and nurturing attitude toward yourself, you waste less time and energy on being hard on yourself and have more energy and time for the things that help you thrive.
You get to acknowledge your unique perception of time, deliberately set your intentions for specific timeframes and maybe even use the mantra that time manifests as you create it. You know best where to put the focus – and if you would like help in getting started – I am happy to support you in establishing a relationship with time that lets you thrive.